Things get messier the closer you get to people. As an idealist, it will always be vulnerable thing for me to face. I realize we can't make lasting and secure bonds with sheer natural strength. My identity will never be in the successes or failures within a relationship. Rather I must reframe my thinking to have faith and help others walk in faith as well. That way I can rest in the abundance of God's love, which it all flows from in the first place.